Chasing vs Pursuit

Many women and men think that chasing and pursuing are synonymous and they most definitely are NOT. I really want you to understand the difference between the two so that you're not wasting your time going round and round with someone. The differentiation between these two words begins from just reading their definitions:

• Chase - To follow rapidly, to hunt, to seek out, to follow with persistency 
• Pursue - To follow in order to overtake; to employ measures in order to obtain

Now if you're not paying attention, you might think that both words mean the same thing: to follow. Both action words do in fact mean to follow, but to understand the difference you must see the INTENT of the action. Ladies when a man chases you, he has no real purpose for YOUR benefit. Now I want to be clear, a man can have a purpose that involves you but that doesn't mean that it will benefit you. For example, remember the man "R" that I wrote about in a previous post? Well R chased me for 10 years...yes you read right 10 YEARS! Now we weren't in consistent contact for those 10 years but we interacted off and on throughout that time. This highlights another very important point about chasing; as long as a man is interested in what he's after...he will continue to chase until he's no longer interested (no matter how long it seems to take). Now in my case with R, he wanted sex and I always declined his advances. Every time we talked he never hesitated to ask, imply, insinuate, allude, mention, proposition, and suggest that we have sex. Now like I mentioned in my post about chemistry, R and I had intense chemistry and my flesh tried to make me think that having sex with R would be a good thing, but my spirit kept me in check. You see R always revealed his intent with his request and it would always snap me right out of giving in to what my flesh wanted. R's intention for chasing me was "to see how sex would feel like with me" even though he was already actively having sex with other women. I was a challenge. R wanted to be the man to get me to break my promise to God about refraining from sex until I met my husband. R knew that I was celibate but he didn't care. He didn't care about how my promise BENEFITED ME, about how my promise to God was IMPORTANT to me, all he cared about was how my body could benefit HIM. Don't feel flattered because a man is persistantly chasing you because the reality is ANY kind of man can chase ANY kind of woman. Heck, a man can chase a pair of gym shoes or a new basketball video game if he's really interested ok! Pursuit on the other hand is very different.

When a man pursues a woman, his intent goes beyond just following after her. A man who pursues is a truly a man with a plan! This man has PREMEDITATED a specific PLAN for you and he understands based off of his PERCEPTION of you that you are a divine PART of his PURPOSE! Whew! YES! As stated in the definition pursuit is, "Employing measures in order to obtain". Understand that a man can chase after several women. Chasing doesn't require a man to know anything in depth about a woman...majority of the time it comes down to a man wanting sex. However sex is not the focus of pursuit. With a Godly man, sex is the reward of the pursuit. A man only pursues ONE woman...ONE! He's not playing any games and is serious about what he wants. Like I said, when a man pursues it's in order to obtain. Obtain what?:

"He  who finds a wife finds a good thing, 

And obtains favor from the Lord." 

Proverbs 18:22

So, a man of God who pursues you is pursuing you with a purpose. The purpose is to see if you are the woman God created to be his wife! I mean what person doesn't want favor?! This doesn't mean that you skip on the dating stage BUT it does mean that when you are dating every moment will have meaning because there is a goal in mind. I read a quote the other day that said: If he keeps asking, "When are we going to chill?" delete his number! He can't even plan a date. How is he going to plan y'all future??" I laughed at this but it's so true! If a man can't even take the time to plan an eventful outing to show you that he is really trying to get to know you and make a good impression, than it means that he doesn't have a purpose in interacting with you and ladies IF THERE IS NO PURPOSE THERE IS NO POINT in talking to this guy. 

As I stated earlier, any man that chases you can have a purpose that INVOLVES you, but a man who pursues you has the specific purpose of INVESTING in you because he knows that such a wise investment will benefit the BOTH of you.